Most returning children do not want to talk about the accusations. This presents a huge dilemma for many parents who feel that the accusers should apologize before reconciliation can take place. Can there be reconciliation if the accusers do not take responsibility for the awful rift and hurts? Others suggest that it takes time for the trust and bonds that hold a family together to renew and that it is too much to expect an apology immediately. The articles below may be helpful.
From Refusal to Reconcilation: Family relationships after an accusation based on recovered memories.
McHugh, P.R., Lief, H.I., Freyd, P.P., Fetkewicz, J.M. (2004), Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, 192(8). 525-531.
To Talk or Not to Talk, That is the Question
Alan Feld (1999). FMSF Newsletter, Vol. 8, No. 2
Returning to the Family: Issues and Problems
Harold Lief and Janet Fetkewicz (1995). FMSF Newsletter, Vol. 4, No. 4
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